The abortion issue has been a controversial topic for decades that reaches to the core of every person in America. Often voters will even base their entire choice on this one topic alone, disregarding everything else the politician has to offer in the vain hope that their “chosen one” will be able to effect change on this issue.
We all like to think that our opinions matter, but so often there is no effective outlet for our beliefs to change lives. While most people have a definite opinion about abortion and take a stance as being either “Pro-Life” or “Pro-choice”, very few have an opportunity to do more than voice their concern to their elected representative. The concerns that we voice to those around us don’t seem to change the status-quo. Unless you are put into the position of having to make this decision in a setting that actually makes a difference, the debate does not affect anything.
Voting is such an integral part of the American identity. We vote on everything. We vote on things ranging from the best singer on American Idol to who the next leader of the free world will be. Wouldn’t it be nice to voice your opinion and have it actually make a difference in the real world? Why not vote on whether to continue or abort an actual pregnancy? Your vote can help a real couple to make a decision on this issue.
We would like to keep you informed on our pregnancy as if it was your own; posting our thoughts and feelings as we struggle to make this decision. We would like you to see what we see and feel what we feel. We invite you take this journey with us as we contemplate our own options and encourage you to utilize this site to vote and voice your opinion in a way that will have a real consequence… in a way that truly matters. Here, your vote will not go unheard.
I really hope your website is a cruel sick, sick joke. Say something is really wrong with your baby, but what if you had faith the size of a mustard seed?? What if God healed your baby in the womb or sometime in her/his lifetime?? I know I sound like another religious looney but I’m really not trying to.
Please choose life for your baby don’t base a life altering decision on some votes on your crazy website. This is your flesh and blood. Some people argue that abortion is a loving choice – the kind of love that prompts a mother to kill her own child, without their consent, to spare them from potential, future suffering (or more likely to spare herself). This is not love; it is the very opposite of love. Selfishness kills. Love lets your child live.
It’s quite common to hear people attempt to justify abortion by bringing up issues like poverty and disease. They’re essentially arguing that impoverished or disabled children are better off dead. That, of course, is a wretched lie. You don’t treat “suffering” by killing those who suffer. Children are better off alive.
“I tell you the truth, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.” Those will be the words of Jesus at the final judgment, to those who failed to “love the least”. And even if you reject the teaching of Jesus Christ, it’s hard to argue against the morality of loving and caring for the least among us – specifically the hungry and oppressed. In America today, there is perhaps no group of human beings more qualified for the “least of these” label than abortion-vulnerable children. In fact, it is their very “leastness” that is most often used as a means of justifying their destruction.
If you’re dumb enough to let random strangers on the Internet decide the fate of your family, then you are certainly not mature enough to be parents. You need professional help.
Your whole theory is rather screwed up. For one thing people who are pro choice are just that pro choice. That means that they support a womans right to choose, it does NOT mean that they are pro abortion. Pro lifers are not flexible, they believe no abortions ever. Well some believe it’s not as bad if someone who was raped aborts.
Also I can’t believe after having so many miscarriages you’d be willing to risk this child based on what a bunch of people on the internet think. You know not just anyone gets to vote in a presidential election. Why is that? Do you think the average eleven year old would really get serious about a political issue and actually research and study the issues and candidates enough to make an informed decision? I don’t think so. And you people are going to let a bunch of people who really don’t give a crap about you, your family, your issues, etc make such an important decision?
This is not who is going to win American Idol, this is not who is going to be president, this is a human life and it’s far too important a decision to place in the hands of the internet of all places.
“If you’re dumb enough to let random strangers on the Internet decide the fate of your family, then you are certainly not mature enough to be parents. You need professional help.”
I agree with this poster. You should be ashamed of yourselves. You only care about yourself and you don’t care anything at all about your child. When you are having a baby, the safety of your child comes before anything else: votes, American Idol, politics. He/She is your flesh and blood.
I kind of understand what you are doing here. I don’t approve of it, but you don’t need my approval.
Unlike “Religious Looney” up there in the comments (who seems to think they’re can prove their pro-life theories by quoting the Bible for dummies) I am generally not pro-life. What happens if you are raped and get pregnant? What happens if you are a single mother and you just don’t want it? Are you going to raise a child and hate it?
Anyhow, just one thing though. You said you have two miscarriages in the last ten years. You also said these pregnancies were planned. Everytime you do not bring a prengnacy to conclusion, there is both mental and physical trauma. By aborting, this could mean that you will turn barren. I wouldn’t let the Internet help me decide on that.
Also, if your child is born and grow to find, someday, some trace that its parents had a poll over the Internet … I don’t think a 6 years old kid, or a teenager, is going to love his/her parents for that. If you believe that the Internet will erase itself, you probably underestimate the geekiness of the next generations.
These two people should not be ALLOWED to reproduce. I can only hope this woman is sterilized by damage from her abortion and the man contracts such severe gonorrhea as to also be rendered sterile. Someone who allows random strangers to decide on something that affects the potential for a child AND the destruction of a part of her body is not capable of being a parent. Those genes should be bleached right out of the pool.
From reading only a few lines of this, the woman is obsessed with the child. She monitors it’s heartbeat to ensure that it still lives; she fears going to a doctor’s appointment to find her child dead. She isn’t mentally well. I can’t say I blame her. Losing a child to a miscarriage is a traumatic, emotionally and physically scarring tragedy. But THREE miscarriages?! *cough* MAYBE they weren’t meant to reproduce! *cough* Going a little crazy isn’t unusual. But what they’re doing… is.
I feel a little insulted. It’s like they’re asking me if I’m pro-life or pro-choice. I’m pro-choice. Which means CHOICE. As in, I vote that it is your right to make the choice. I feel like I’m being forced on the issue. This is starting to piss me off pretty badly. God damned idiots.
I’m concerned and very troubled reading about this website over the indecision to keep your baby or not. Is this a sick joke? It’s not like making a choice between watching a movie or going for a bike ride….this is a life…the life of your child you are talking about. I’m genuinely shocked and appalled at this hideous callousness! You post weekly scans with apparent heartless indifference…yet you detail your baby’s development? You are such a hypocrite! How can you report that your child has eyelashes and eyebrows and leave its life or death to a public vote?
All I can say is I hope you do the right thing. How can you think this is acceptable reasoning? You seem as though you are disposing of a mere inconvenience…like a growth or a wart…..this is life!
I am not religious. I’m pro choice….and it should be exactly that…you’re choice.
A choice is not a majority vote. It’s a decision you make yourself based on weighing up the pros and cons…..do not confuse the words “vote” and “choice” to mean the same thing. This is extremely insensitive to every woman who has made the difficult decision to abort their child for their own reasons…..you are not taking this seriously you selfish selfish woman!
Pro-choice. This should be your decision, not one based on the whims of the direction of votes on the internet. I think it would be madness if you base your decision purely on the poll results.
I agree with Frenchie, imagine if you do take this child to term and it grows up knowing its very life was decided on an internet poll, how sickening. As for Amanda’s religious spout and justification of pro-life through the Bible – she should be ashamed of herself for letting an out of date piece of fiction drive her decisions. You always have a CHOICE.
I hope pro-life and pro-choice individuals are equally disgusted by this. And, to echo a previous comment, if you think life is so disposable that you would leave this decision up to the results of an internet poll, you do not deserve children (and, no, that’s not a vote to abort…I refuse to vote in your disgusting poll). How sick.
This little person has done nothing to deserve death. He or she has done nothing more than exist and there is no reason at all that he or she should not continue to live and grow and learn to walk and talk and make you laugh and wonder what you ever did without this little one.
We have been blessed with four young ladies. Two of them were born to us and two came to join us. We can’t imagine our lives now without any of them and I hope someday you say the very same thing.
Wishing you well.
I am pro-choice, but you people are disgusting. Give it up for adoption. Or is that an option you are too dumb to think of? Why make this poor baby suffer. You seem more than capable to raise a child, you are in your 30’s. Grow up. Why is it that people that shouldn’t have kids are the ones that are most fertile?
You all are disgusting. The right to choose should be done in a personal and private setting. Not on a public forum for strangers to decide. If you have this child, God help it, they will know that you seriously considered killing them. That’s disgusting. I am pro-choice and I find you all offensive, heartless and apparently demented.
I think you are doing this to gain attention. No one in their right mind would allow a bunch of strangers to make such a meaningful decision- literally whether your child lives or dies. I have now seen it all…hell why don’t you just go to your local elementary high school and pass around a note w/ boxes that say check yes or no? IMO it is about the same maturity level.
should say:
why don’t you just go to your local elementary OR high school and pass around a note w/ boxes that say yes or no-
Is the baby healthy?
Please have the baby and give it up to adoption to parents who will love it. You are not fit to be parents.
I can’t find where to vote on your website. I’ve looked up and down and I can’t find it. Where do I go if I want to cast my vote for your baby?
This is your child! Would do anything in your power to protect it once it was born?? You have the opportunity to protect it now too! Please choose adoption if you are not ready to be parents….so many people we know are waiting for a baby to love! I encourage you to google the butterfly effect…what you do effects people all over the world…
Think of who your baby could one day be….
Whether you think a woman should have the right to abort her baby is neither here nor there in this website/poll/grab for attention. How trivial can you make human life? If you weren’t sure you were ready to be a parent, why make the choice to get pregnant? I hope this baby never finds out you thought little more of whether he or she should live or die than whether you should buy the brown boots or the black ones. This is despicable, and warrants investigation by the DHS, just for starters.
I hope this is bullshit, if not karma is gonna get these people. I fully support a womans right to choose but not like this, social experiment much??? It reeks of it!
As so many have said already, part of being pro-choice is supporting the fact that an abortion is a PERSONAL decision. I cannot in good conscience vote yes OR no, because it’s not my business. It doesn’t affect my life, it affects yours, and so the choice is yours alone–not the government’s, not religion’s, and certainly not the choice of a thousand anonymous strangers.
Keep your little miracle
This is ridiculous! I have never been so appalled in my life! I don’t believe in abortion, but doesn’t mean I can make decisions for other people! It sounds to me like they have already made up their mind, but just want “reassurance” from other people, therefore posting it on the internet. Disgusting if you ask me. They are destroying a life. Not only are they killing a growing human being, they are waiting until the last possible minute — just like they are torturing the baby in a prison (womb) only to be sentenced to death (abortion). SICK, SICK, SICK!!! Seriously, GROW UP and Be Responsible for the life you made!!!!
I suggest you watch this video, it’s about an abortion survivor:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kPF1FhCMPuQ
PLEASE do not abort your baby. I will adopt baby Wiggles!!!!
I’m so sorry that you have to make such a hard decision. When I look at my children and my grandchildren, I can’t imagine life without them. They are such a blessing. My life would be empty without them. If you are afraid of not being good parents, then choose adoption. There are wonderful people in this world that would love to have a baby and can’t. I hope you choose life for your child! (Someday you may regret a choice of death.)
I am pro-choice and am disgusted. Becoming a parent is not a matter of democracy! It’s a personal decision based on determining if you A) want to be a parent B) can support a child and C) can provide the child with a loving and stable environment.
There’s no D) whether or not strangers on the internet vote for it.
Get a life!
If YOU want a child, AND the developing fetus is healthy, then you should CHOOSE to continue to birth and congratulations. If you do not want a child then you should choose an abortion (BE SURE THAT YOU REALLY WANT THAT, it is not to be taken lightly). If the fetus is not healthy, your choice will become much more difficult. In my humble opinion, bringing a child into the world who is destined to die a painful death from medical complications is the pinnacle of cruelty. However, I do not recommend a strict health criteria as many medically unhealthy people live fulfilling lives despite their various conditions.
This particular vote on your pregnancy is atrocious. Under no circumstances should anyone make personal medical decisions based on more than the counsel of their doctor and their family.
If you continue your pregnancy, I highly recommend that you both change your names and NEVER let your child know of this website, or put the child up for adoption without your names attached. This website can and most probably will traumatize your child and you must take every step possible to prevent that.
I also recommend that you discontinue this website immediately if you intend to ever have children for those same reasons. Also, if you wish to avoid becoming universally despised by your neighbours, you should discontinue this site as there is a strong probability of that as well.
I hope you do decide to continue with the pregnancy. I hope that you choose life. But no one except you should make that decision.
I am so sorry for your previous losses. I have miscarried as well, and understand that sadness. I have also been blessed with a living child, and he is so amazing.
Isn’t it interesting how every who is for abortion has already been born? No matter what we go through, the toughest situations, life is worth living. Please give your child that chance. You are the only people in the world who can protect your baby, take that responsibility seriously.
Have you really enjoyed your 15 minutes of fame? That’s all this is…. a huge setup to gain loads of national attention. No one in their right minds (especially fellow Minnesotans) should ever entertain such an idea to let hundreds or thousands of complete strangers decide the fate of their own child. Watch, at the end, this couple will say it was all an online experiment.
While I’m not sure what happened that led to the idea of abortion even being considered here, the reason I’m commenting here is to say that life is not something trivial or disposable like this.
It’s a major shock that the life of an innocent child is up for a vote, as though the voters were members of a jury deciding the fate of a criminal on trial.
Like others, I refuse to vote in this. But for the sake of that beautiful baby, I hope he or she is given every chance at life. Regardless of how any particular child came to be, whatever the mistakes of the parents, every child deserves that chance to have a life…and to not be deprived of that (especially when they have no say in the matter).
And I echo the sentiments that adoption is a choice for those in need of a loving home to grow up in.
Killing another human being is wrong! Please do not murder your innocent child. It isn’t worth it.
This is not funny and I don’t know what kind of game you are playing here but I find it in very poor taste to say the least.
I don’t know where to vote, but please keep the baby.
To Mr.& Mrs Hitler,
Congratulations you both come in first place for being are sick sociopaths. People like you two are what makes the earth hellish. The fact that you are doing this shows your utter contempt for life. Have the baby and put the innocent child up for adoption. Heck even putting the baby in a circus would be a better life for the baby than being raised by you two morons. Can you imagine if you don’t murder the baby ,when the child becomes an adult and finds out what his/her parents had done ?
Hell isn’t hot enough for you two…..
sick fuckers. you guys should not be allowed to conceive anymore. have the baby and give it up for adoption and hope he NEVER EVER EVER EVER find out about this website. it would damage him for the rest of his life.
you guys should rot in hell for even THINKING of doing this.
I would like to make a few points. One is, this is sick, truly sick. I can’t believe you people! Two, you admit in all of your writings about your website that this is your “unborn child”. This is your “baby”. The reason that abortions are allowed by law up to a certain point in the pregnancy is because it is said that up to that point, it is not a human being. If it is a human being, it would be willful murder.
Three, even some of the pro-choice people are disgusted. This has to tell you something.
Stop, right now, this is so very very wrong.
Entrusting your baby to a couple longing to become parents is a great choice, though a difficult one. You would choose the adoptive parents, meet them, and hear about your child regularly if you wish and if you work through a good agency like Bethany.
We honor our children’s birthparents for making the loving sacrificial choices they did.
Blessings.
I know any comment posted here is useless, but I feel compelled to post anyway.
I was young when I became pregnant. My good friend had aborted her child less than 2 months before. She offered to give me the name of her abortionist, though I didn’t take it. I don’t care if others choose to have an abortion. I can’t do it.
My daughter was 18 when she became pregnant. Her friend encouraged her to abort the baby. Her friend’s mother offered to pay for it. My daughter had gotten a full scholarship to a good university that she would lose if she didn’t attend the following semester. My daughter refused to abort the child.
Last night, I was on the phone with my 12-year-old granddaughter. We discussed abortion, and I retold the tale of how her mom refused to kill her while she was inside her mother.
She said, “I hope I see them some day. I’m going to go up to them, and say, ‘you want to kill me now?'”
This is not something I made up. It’s the truth.
While I don’t want you to have an abortion, I wish you had never become pregnant. You appear to be unfit to be parents. While I have some understanding of the point you’re trying to make, I think it’s horrible to make it this way. I can’t imagine any good thing coming to your child when it finds it was up to the stupid voters to decide it’s fate.
Voting has become a farce. Any thinking person knows votes don’t represent the truth. They represent the power of the most determined. The most determined can be, in fact, the minority. They are often the most cunning, and the best able to sway reality to their satisfaction.
If the voters should decide to give you thumbs up, and the child lives, I hope you will give it to people who care. I know you won’t. I’m sure you’ll set up more votes as to whether you should feed it, clothe it or send it to school. Perhaps you’ll have a vote as to whether you should sell it into slavery or part it’s organs out for money on the black market.
Dear children, i’d like to first say, that i love you both and little wiggles. It doesn’t really matter what all these people have to say concerning your choice regarding your childs life or death. The only thing that matters is truth. I’ve placed the truth within your hearts along long time ago. I placed it there, while you were both wiggles age. Yes, an unborn child is so much more than mere flesh and blood and eye lashes and toes. An unborn child is in fact a (soul). And I AM the keeper of every single soul i have ever sent . Little wiggles, will forever reside within my heart. I have only sent you this (gift) for one reason, and one reason only. Now, it is up to you both, to understand this reason. Seek the truth, and you will find, a little memory of my mind. And when you see the light of day, upon your knees i hope you pray. The answer comes on wings of love, and you will hear the truth. Be still and know , that I AM GOD, and i will always love you !!!
Love Forever
GOD
Hi mama and daddy this is Wiggles! I can’t wait to see you I’ve been listening to your heart beat and I hear you both talking, I love your voices. I have fingers now daddy, I can’t wait til you show me how to throw a football!! When I get older I’ll go to the prom, I’ll ride all the highest roller coasters, I’ll be big just like you daddy! Mama when you get old I’ll take care of you just like you take care of me. My vote is- I want to live (Wiggles)
My mother was 32 when she decided to have me and I’m glad she did. She is now one of my closest friends. I’m grateful I have a chance to experience life just as she did. My daddy just went through open heart surgery we are still in the hopspital as I write. He is fighting for life so that he can see me get married and have kids. The love between children and parents is imcomprehensible. My vote is- Life (Ashley)
As a mother with four daughters I know how life changes after children, but I would never trade one of them for anything. My last daughter was born when I was 32 years old and I felt as much joy and excitement as the first! My husband (her father) has always said “if God starts life He will provide for it.” A child provides purpose for your life. When you and your husband die your child will continue on, If not then that will be the end of the love you share together. There was a reason you were born one being to give birth to this child. You two were handpicked by God for this particular child to bring it into the world and to have life! If you’re not sure about having a family then give the baby away. There are plenty of families that want a baby. My vote is-Life (MAMA)
Are you serious with this site? I’ve never heard of something so stupid.
I find it hard to understand why you would have unprotected sex and THEN think “hmm, maybe we don’t actually want a baby” – seriously, birth control is not hard to use or access. Grow up! Though I do think this website is interesting – it reminds me of that artist who tied up a dog and left it to starve as part of their exhibition; the public reaction was intriguing – some people felt really, vehemently against the poor dog being tied up, yet no one actually freed or fed the dog.
Personally, I think this site is very wrong – yes, I am aware of the internet being a place of freedom to post one’s opinions and thoughts, but just because you CAN do something, doesn’t mean you should. I could spout off all my opinions but I won’t because I don’t need to. I think this website is really, just a sad reflection of today’s society – let’s post all the gross and depressing and contraversial stuff because it’s “our right” – wow, what a “great” right that is to have.
I find it a little odd that you would post so many details about the baby’s development, yet still able to consider aborting. If you’d definitely not wanted it , you should have aborted as soon as possible – and leaving it until the last minute (practically), I also find disturbing – it will be “more human” than if you’d aborted when it was still a tiny peanut – the level for connection is greater, the further into the pregnancy you go.
Either way, don’t be surprised at the negative backlash which you’re going to face for a very long time, and if you do have that child, you’d better thank your lucky stars every single day, because there are far more deserving parents out there.
I challenge you to add to your poll.
Have the baby and give it up for adoption to a loving family
I wonder what the outcome will be? and IF you have the guts to do it. Especially since you actually think that your pregnancy should be determined by complete strangers.
Will you do it??
Alas, the ultimate destination of moral relativism. *DING* we have arrived. Everyone follows their own truth. No one can know the truth. There is no truth. This is what you get, you spineless fools. You’ve demoted yourselves to subhuman animals who are not sure if they should feed their neighbors, or eat them. Then the super-rational pro-choice commenters come up with some illogical religious wannabe doctrine of “choice.” Even though you hate religion you subscribe to unprovable and irrational myths of “free will” or “human rights.” FYI: If there is no supernatural Designer, everything has been predetermined by the immutable laws of physics. You are just biochemical robots, programmed like every other animal. Science has made it clear that there is nothing but natural and explainable mechanical physics, remember? You are but a souless cloud of dust, no matter how big your ego is. Don’t forget that, losers.
Here is a hint, you (invertebrate) subhuman animals: stop questioning or debating morality. Stop judging anyone for having strong moral/religious convictions. You are just animals; no, more pathetic than any animal because they do not suffer such confused delusions, as you do. There is no wrong or right in the animal kingdom. There is no “Those zebras are irrational bronze-aged myth believers, us lions are scientific and modern and superior!” It is kill or be killed, no remorse, no reason, no logic, no love or hate or good or charity. Just self-interested exercise of power. This is what you moral relativists asked for. Welcome to your final destination, you fools. You asked for it!
The only solution is to kill yourself. Luckily the greatest religious teacher ever, said you can be “born again,” after you’ve put the flesh to death and have been filled with the Spirit. Believe what he said- all of it. You’ll be better off that way.
I say let the child live but put it up for adoption if you dont want it… hell my biological father tried to beat my mom to cause me to be aborted so I am completely against this S@!T Im glad the vote is going the right direction cause I have about gave up on people making the right choice.
Ha! The internet certainly brings out the dumbest and naivest in people, doesn’t it? It calls to mind an onion article, and I paraphrase: “Man’s hard-researched vote cancelled out by guy who like other candidate’s tie.”
This is undoubtedly a hoax to get attention once the site’s purveyors decide to “go against what the majority is saying and have the baby anyway,” or “prove that the majority is pro-life,” much to the delight of stupid conservative pundits everywhere that are looking for any and all support regardless of how dubious it actually is, and shame on all of you idiot talk-backers that are buying it.
The irony, as several people here have pointed out, is that the “abort if you want” position is advocated by NOBODY. Nobody is really pro-abortion, but pro-choicers are just intelligent enough to realize that the best way to actually reduce the net nationwide complications surrounding abortions (including the sum of both the abortions themselves, the medical problems that can result from back-alley abortions, and the medical and social problems that can arise from cases where the birth is unwanted and/or dangerous to the mother) is to legalize it. All one has to do is look at the drug war, prohibition, and now texting in cars to see that making something illegal does not make the problem go away, and can often make things worse. The site’s authors’ pitiful and transparent attempt to “make a statement” with this is just a sad failure to understand the pro-choice argument, and insulting to the intelligence of all of us that take this issue even moderately seriously.
I had an abortion when I was 18. Straight out of high school. I was young, immature and had no real idea about what was growing inside me. I have a hard time with my decision now that I am fully aware of how my baby was growing. I cannot comprehend or fathom in my mind how you can be following this baby’s life so closely (ie ultrasounds, buying a machine to listen to the heartbeat and reading about how he is developing each week) and even slightly consider having an abortion. I just don’t get it. How can you be so emotionally connected, yet disconnected enough to be willing to have your child vacuumed out of you? Please don’t have an abortion. You have miscarried twice and now you are further along than you ever have been in a pregnancy. That is a miracle! God is giving you a gift!! Write me if you want to talk. I can tell you how horrible of an experience it is to have an abortion.
I love how people jump to judge the quality of a persons entire life based on a couple blog postings, which seem to elicit some thought on the matters.