Her:
- Grew up and graduated from high school in a small town surrounded by corn fields
- Parents: Married (to each other), middle-class, blue-collar with 2 yr degrees
- Bachelor’s Degree in English from small private liberal arts school
- Works for a small software company
Him:
- Grew up in a large suburb but moved to a small rural town (age 12) and graduated from high school there
- Parents: Married (to each other) middle-class, blue collar/military, father completed 3 yrs of college and mother received bachelor’s degree recently
- Bachelor’s Degree in Technical Writing from a small state college
- Works for a small IT consulting business
Their:
- Met at her school during their sophomore year, engaged 3 mos. later
- Unplanned, unsuccessful pregnancy at age 20 while taking “The Pill”
- Married in a traditional ceremony at 21
- Bought first home in small suburb in ‘02
- Moved to second home in larger suburb 2 yrs later
- Brought home first cat in summer ‘05
- Brought home 2nd cat in summer ‘08
- First planned pregnancy ended in miscarriage in Jan. ’10 at 16 wks
- Second planned pregnancy ended in miscarriage in Apr. ’10 at 5 wks
What does the doctor say about your chances of a healthy pregnancy and baby?
Do you want to have children? Looks like you do, you keep trying.
Have you thought about giving it up for adoption?
This is probably a publicity stunt, maybe to raise money from the adds and hits on this blog. Whatever.
I will not vote. I am pro-choice for the people directly involved. You should obviously make your decision based on what’s best for both of you. Which I suspect you plan to do anyway. You probably plan to have the baby, and predict thats how people will vote anyway.
Anyway, good luck and happy parenting!
Please consider adoption if you feel you do not want this child! Speaking as an infertile woman, there are so many families out there that would love to give this child a loving, warm home!
Please consider giving this child life.
You should give it up for adoption, you are clearly not fit to be parents.
If you are really this goofy, you should give birth, but for God’s sake give the innocent child to someone with a decent head on their shoulders. You do not have a right to kill your child no matter what the butchers from Planned Parenthood and others tell you.
Pete & Alisha-
I’m just curious WHY?, after 2 planned pregnancies this year, you feel as though you don’t want this one?
Normally, I wouldn’t stick my nose in where it doesn’t belong, but being that you have put yourselves into the public eye, I don’t feel bad asking.
Also, why wouldn’t you have a choice listed for adoption?
I would also suggest an adoption if you really didn’t think you were ready to raise a child. However, it looks like you’ve tried to become pregnant twice before, so I don’t really understand why you’re thinking of aborting a healthy baby. If everything is going well, I would continue with the pregnancy. Good luck to you and I hope everything works out the way it supposed to.
This is sick…..either you want to be parents or you dont! why should the rest of the world decide such an important personal thing!
I hope to god you think about heathers comment above as abortion at such a late stage would be murder in my eyes but you both DO NOT DESERVE TO BE PARENTS!
I sincerely hope your unable to conceive again!
This is so obviously an anti-choice stunt to get these to obese tards in the news. I wish I had been able to vote on both of your births. You wouldn’t be here and thousands and thousands of cheeseburgers would be safe.
you had 2 miscarriages and you don’t know what to do with your baby? it is beyond my understanding. do you want children or not?
Have you ever thought of being sterilised??? You people are disgusting, obviously all you want is your 15 minutes of fame!!
Dear Pete/Alisha
You don’t know who I am and probably never will. I was so moved by the recent newspaper article concerning your plight and felt I had to email you. I am from London England but had to take time out from work to voice what I had to say.
I am sure you have sat down and thought long and hard about this. Whether to give this baby a life. In simple words PLEASE do. Getting rid of a child is not that easy. Though the child may be gone if you consider aborting him or her. I cannot call this beautiful child an IT. This ray of sunshine can bring you such joy and happiness and a bond so strong a bond you never thought you had until a child kick starts that emotion for you. The thought of an abortion and what actually takes place will never leave you. The pain and the blood as they push prick and pull that baby wripping it apart and pulling apart its bones ligaments and tendons whilst its STILL inside of you. No-one talks about the mental anguish or the roller coaster of emotion a mother feels when she loses a child, or indeed when she disposes of one. It’s all hush hush. Think about this. Both of your mothers gave you and your partner/husband a life, a future, a chance to be someone, a chance to reach and achieve goals. If you do decide to abort this wonderful being, he or she cannot be replaced even if you go on to have another and even then having another baby is not guaranteed to anyone. There are many couples who have had a child and simply cannot have anymore. I could go on and talk about the countless children that yes, have been left at many doorsteps of homes and hospitals because their parents/mothers couldn’t cope but that mum gave them a chance to live. Please. Give your baby a chance to live. If not, please consider adoptions as there are many mothers who’s hearts are aching because they cannot have a child and their wombs will never hold and nourish a baby but they may be able to take care of yours.
Yours sincerely
Gift of Life
I really hope this is some kind of sick joke to get your faces plastered in the media. Or maybe an educational tool on abortion cloaked as a real scenario at best.
If you’ve already gone through two planned pregnancies then what makes you uncertain about this one? There are many questions in the comments but no answers – a FAQ page would be a good idea.
I’ve only read a few of the posts because frankly that was all I could really stand. It’s rather difficult to convey just how sick you two are in words, but by golly I sure will try.
To begin with, just by reading the small biography, it appears as if at one time you did want children but because of so many miscarriages, perhaps you feel disenchanted mainly because you feel this one will also end in disaster and leave you heartbroken yet again.
Is this not a topic you’ve broached before becoming pregnant? If this was an unplanned pregnancy, why did you not use birth control? Why did you just not have sex? It’s not exactly a mystery of how women get pregnant, nor is it a mystery as to when a woman is most fertile.
I enjoy sex like any regular person does, but in this case, an ounce of self control would have prevented this pound of heartache.
Mostly, I find you both sick and disgusting because you so nonchalantly give the masses full disclosure of something so personal and private. If you want to keep the child, keep it. If you want to abort it, give it up. Put on your grown-up pants and make a decision because no one on this planet is going to give a damn about you as much as you do. Life is full of difficult choices and by bringing public attention to this matter you show the entire planet what small-minded people you are. I would liken your mentality to a child, but that would be insulting to most children.
Make a decision. Pete, keep it in your pants. Alisha, keep you legs shut. You two are not mentally fit to become parents right now. If this is all a joke, you both have a very disillusioned sense of what is funny. Grow a pair and grow the fuck up.
I’m pro-choice. Like Sheldon said above, I will not vote and think you must make your decision based on what’s best for both of you.
If you decide to keep the baby but do not want to raise him, please put him up for adoption. You can start the process now, and most, if not all, of your medical costs could be covered.
I know there are lots of people — myself included — who are waiting to adopt and would be thrilled at the opportunity to raise this child as their own.
First, I cannot believe someone can be so crass as to let baby hating strangers who don’t give a damn about your baby other than to push an abortion rights agenda decide to kill YOUR child. And if you can’t tell by now that it’s a child, I don’t know what will help. Whether or not the baby is perfectly healthy is irrelevant. Who has the right to decide the worth of another human being? There’s obviously people commenting on here that think you two aren’t worth the air you’re breathing – so do they have the right to slaughter you? I don’t know what your goal is here, but if you need help there are organizations to help you with the baby and of course there’s always adoption. What CANNOT be reversed is your baby’s slaughtering through an abortion. It will feel the pain too of being torn limb from limb, or excrutiatingly burned through a saline abortion.
Secondly, your use of contraceptives could be at the root of the other miscarriages. Abortion can also leave you sterile. Abortion can also leave you dead.
Thirdly, “planned” or not, doesn’t make a life any more or less valuable or sacred. I will pray that you give life to your baby – the decision to raise your baby or let someone else should be the real decision you make….not whether or not to kill the poor darling who has NO voice here on the internet. It’s not about you anymore.
This is a disgusting stunt that makes a mockery of the wrenching decisions that women, their partners, and their doctors have to make. If you think you’re making some sort of point about people who are pro-choice, you are sadly mistaken. The only people who come out looking craven and disrespectful of life are you.
No matter what you do with this one – you both should get fixed as soon as possible. Why torment another unborn child as you are this one? What a crappy prenatal scrapbook you have for this baby:
I just had a healthy baby boy 3 mo. ago. Reading this breaks my heart. This is not an easy decision that should be made by anyone other than the parents. Yes your life will be different if you choose to have the baby, but that is not a bad thing. My son just started laughing out loud. It is the sweetest sound any parent could ever hear. How can you hear the heartbeat and see the ultrasound and still have this website up. I encourage you to have the baby and give it to some family who cannot have their own. Than you can continue on with your life without the inconvenience of a baby. Please also get fixed so that I never ever have to come across such an idiotic webpage. To think educated adults could be so stupid.
I am assuming this could not be real. Could 2 educated people really put “life” in the hands of the unknown public. I mean I hope this is just a way to get people talking and that this is not real. What has this world come to?
First of all, it is obvious these people are not normal people so I agree they are not fit to be parents. I have so many friends trying to have a baby right now so it is pretty obvious they should place the baby for adoption.
I wonder how their baby will feel knowing that the public either chose life or chose to kill him/her? I can’t imagine the baby will be happy to know the parents wanted to cause a media frenzy with this ridiculous website.
Secondly, the choice has already been done (having sex). The choice should not be to kill the baby after the choice has already been made.
THirdly, I have heard this before and I think the couple should think about it. “You won’t regret having a baby, but you more than likely will regret aborting a baby”.
I will be praying for both of you and baby “Wiggles.” I encourage you both to picture this baby as a blessing from God, especially since you’ve already had 2 miscarriages. If you don’t feel like you can afford or care for the child, there are thousands of families wanting to adopt. God bless you!
Please give it up for adoption. Also, if your husband and you are thinking of getting an abortion then why bother wanting to get pregnant? I would suggest that after the baby, please do the world a favor and either one or both of you please get fixed. There are enough stupid people in the world and you 2 are trying to breed more.
This is a disgusting publicity stunt –
sure to give you you’re 15 min of fame- enjoy and God Bless that poor baby
i’ve had an abortion. my son had just turned one and i thought i couldn’t raise two so young. i still have nightmares about the procedure, and that was nine years ago. what hasn’t been mentioned quite yet is IT’S EMOTIONALLY PAINFUL, BUT QUITE PHYSICALLY PAINFUL AS WELL. U can feel the vaccum inside of you. It feels like someone is literally sucking your insides out. (they are)…. they herd you in a small room with about 8 other women. all dressed in hospital gowns. they give everyone a valium, to try and calm you down (doesn’t work, AT ALL)…. then u just sit there and wait…. once you get in the back of the abortion clinic you are stretched out as if on a cross. arms laid all the way straight out from your body and laying back, except your legs go into the stirrups. your hands are strapped down so you don’t move. i FELT ALL OF IT HAPPENING. nothing was number. no anesthesia. (may have spelled that wrong…..)…. ii see from your picture that we are about the same size. guess what. u get charged extra because of that. listen, please please please have the baby, give it up for adoption. i waited until my 13th week. i asked the woman if i could see the ultrasound picture, there at the clinic. the fetus had gone from looking like a lima bean, to looking like a baby. i cannot tell the amount of mental/emotional anguish i am living with knowing i killed someone. because you are not just having an abortion, you are killing your child. it’s not a nameless fetus, or lima bean, or glob on the ultrasound. i’m not being dramatic. look at your own ultrasound pictures. for God’s sake, you can see his face!!! PLEASE let this be a sick joke. How would you feel if you stumbles upon a poll your parents set up to see if they should have allowed you to live or let a bunch of strangers decide upon you?
I think killing this little fuck of a baby is a fantastic Idea. if You don’t want it then just get rid of it it is that easy. Plus kids cost too much anyways PEACE
You are obviously self absorbed, attention seeking, get famous quick, entirely shameless people, who do not deserve to be parents. I find your website offensive, a total disgrace and frankly beyond believable. Just pray that if you do have this child he never finds out that you put his future up for public vote, because he will end up as screwed up as the 2 of you. You should be ashamed of yourselves.
I think I understand what point you are trying to make here. By opening this pregnancy on a very personal level to make a point. I totally get it. You’ve been trying to get pregnant. You’ve lost several babies due to miscarriage already. Which tells me you do want children. You post ultrasound images weekly of your baby’s development. It’s obvious to me that you’re making a very pro-life point here. A point that is being missed by most people posting comments on this site.
Good luck to both of you on your pregnancy. I hope that your baby is healthy. I would love to hear back from you.
This absolutely disgusts me. How can two people, who PLANNED two other pregnancies have the public decide whether or not you should give birth to a third pregnancy? You two should be ashamed of yourselves for this. You should give birth to the child and then it should be taken away from you and given to two loving parents who WANT a baby. There are thousands of people in this world who are unable to have children, and you are two people who have been blessed with the ability to do such a thing and you are abusing it in a disgusting, inhumane way. You should be ashamed of yourselves as possible future parents, but more so as human beings.
After reading the entries posted here, I can’t believe anyone believes this couple is seriously considering allowing the masses at large to determine the outcome of this pregnancy. Clearly they intend on continuing the pregnancy, why else would they be going through the expense of all of these 3d ultrasounds, reading pregnancy books & following a doctor’s recommendation of bed-rest. Several websites have already called foul on this site, showing it is very likely to be an anti-choice propaganda hoax.
This is not a couple torn between choices & seeking the opinions of kind strangers, this is couple and/or a group pulling the wool over your eyes.
I am a pro-lifer all the way, and your callous treatment of abortion is disgusting. It doesn’t matter a bit whether or not you intend to keep the child, but the fact that you’re allowing strangers to weigh in on a medical decision sickens me. People like you don’t deserve to be parents, ever. I pray you abort your child, just so that you don’t raise any more people like you.
I beg you to please do not abort this baby… It is a baby.
If you read Exodus 21:22-23 “If people are fighting and hit a pregnant woman and she gives birth prematurely but there is no serious injury, the offender must be fined whatever the woman’s husband demands and the court allows. But if there is serious injury, you are to take life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot, 25 burn for burn, wound for wound, bruise for bruise.
If God didn’t consider your baby a person He surely wouldn’t demand someones life for it…. Please don’t make the biggest mistake you ever will… Try PARENTPROFILES.COM. There are like 500,000 couples looking for a baby there at no cost to you… They will pay for everything. If that doesn’t help I will take and Love your baby… I am Praying for you all… John Barros
I’ve been prolife forever– oldest of 8 kids, have 7 myself. I understand however that many prolife people are so busy thinking about baby they forget the real life worries and concerns of mom and baby.
Hoax or not it is very real that people on boths sides must show the concern and intelligence to address both sides.
I would urge when this is all over finding an expert to address your mulitple losses and difficulty carrying to term. Having your tubes tied will be suggested but only prevents problems at this time in your life– it doesn’t determine if a real issue needs correction surgically or medically.
Listen closely to your conscience—BIRTH!!! Let the baby live!!!!
No matter what “they” tell you….you NEVER EVER get over killing your baby.
8 years down the road it hits bigtime out of the blue. There is no escaping the
emotional torture. Some drink, some do drugs, some are depressed, angry,
blame others, act out inappropriately etc., etc. but abortion is NEVER a healthy outcome.
keep the baby, he/she is a precious treasure, you will be glad you did not abort, my mom is.
you have no idea who this baby will become, give him/her and you, the chance to find out!
You two do not deserve to be parents. Give the child up for adoption. Imagine the child’s horror when he grows up and finds out this was his parents idea of amusement. I’m appalled.
I dont think u should be allowed to have the baby if u do choose to let the baby be born. You take life as such a joke u set up a poll to let complete strangers decide if your baby lives or dies. Your disgusting and its a surprise you have any education passed highschool because u are a ignorant when it comes to parenting and making life changing decisions. I will not vote because I do not want to be part of this sadness. May god touch you and show you what you are doing is wrong, Your family is in my prayers!
Didn’t I read on your blog that you wanted us to make a real difference in the world? Why don’t you two make a difference in the world? Why don’t you take the baby that you obviously don’t really want to have and bless a couple who CAN’T have a child? THAT would be making a difference in the world and changing the world….at least for one family.
Next, I really can’t imagine you NOT having the abortion now. I mean. Really. This looks like something you are going to do anyway. Why do I say that? Well, think about it. If the vote goes for life….what are you going to tell that baby one day? That his or her life was in the hands of strangers who voted whether they lived or died? If you choose life….PLEASE choose to place the child for adoption. I would hate to think that child had to live with knowing what you’ve done here. He or she will be wounded for life.
I’m praying God changes your hearts and see that this is wrong….very wrong.
I choose LIFE if God has blessed you with this little one there is always a reason…I feel you are playing with fire by putting your child on the chopping board like this…Imagine if your parents did this to you?…You might not be here and you might not have had life to live up until now…It breaks my heart seeing people killing their beautiful little children…I pray that your eyes be opened to truth…
ABORT THAT FUCKING THING. PEOPLE LIKE YOU DON’T DESERVE CHILDREN.
This is an anti-choice stunt…and a very stupid one. But I am happy they did this because it shows the masses how unintelligent and irrational pro-life radicals are.
They gave people two opposing choices to vote on: kill the “baby” or don’t. They did this because they think the opposite of pro-life is pro-choice. But it’s not that extreme….silly-heads.
If they had half a brain between them, they would have given us pro-choice folk our own bubble to vote on labeled, “IT’S YOUR DECISION,” because that is what we believe (hence the word “choice”). But that would be the rational thing to do…and these are irrational people. Also, doing that would have resulted in a landslide win for, “IT’S YOUR DECISION,” which would defeat the purpose of this laughable stunt.
Come on, now… did they really think there are people in this world (other than pranksters) who would vote in favor of aborting the healthy pregnancy of a married (yet insane) couple? Sorry to burst your bubble Pete and Alisha, but most people are not as simple-minded as you… also, Jesus hates you.
Please keep yall baby that baby needs u .he or she will love an enjoy being your Child keep don’t listen to what people say.
Please dont allow other people to make the decision on whether or not to take a life. If you dont want the baby give him up for adoption. I will be praying for the three of you 🙂
You people are sick! Give your baby to a normL human being!
i don’t know if everyone saw this post by james, but i felt the need to re-post as i found it to be that good…
james- “This is so obviously an anti-choice stunt to get these to obese tards in the news. I wish I had been able to vote on both of your births. You wouldn’t be here and thousands and thousands of cheeseburgers would be safe.”
I’m praying you don’t MURDER your own child.
Just to follow up on Krissy’s comment, Jesus Christ does not hate anyone. He hates sin. If you know the love of Christ, then you would know that. “For You, Lord, are kind and ready to forgive, abundant in faithful love to all who call on you.” Psalm 86:5
I hope your child grows up, realizes how demonic its parents are and murders you both. seriously.
Why don’t you give him/her for adoption? The call you make for others to vote to decide about this kid’s life is inhuman. Neither of you are prepared to become parents, but that poor human being is not responsible for your irresponsibility. To give him/her for adoption, not only frees you from having to kill him or making the mother go through that process, but lets other responsible adults to take care and love your baby. I vote for NO, don’t abort… better give him for adoption.