Her:
- Grew up and graduated from high school in a small town surrounded by corn fields
- Parents: Married (to each other), middle-class, blue-collar with 2 yr degrees
- Bachelor’s Degree in English from small private liberal arts school
- Works for a small software company
Him:
- Grew up in a large suburb but moved to a small rural town (age 12) and graduated from high school there
- Parents: Married (to each other) middle-class, blue collar/military, father completed 3 yrs of college and mother received bachelor’s degree recently
- Bachelor’s Degree in Technical Writing from a small state college
- Works for a small IT consulting business
Their:
- Met at her school during their sophomore year, engaged 3 mos. later
- Unplanned, unsuccessful pregnancy at age 20 while taking “The Pill”
- Married in a traditional ceremony at 21
- Bought first home in small suburb in ‘02
- Moved to second home in larger suburb 2 yrs later
- Brought home first cat in summer ‘05
- Brought home 2nd cat in summer ‘08
- First planned pregnancy ended in miscarriage in Jan. ’10 at 16 wks
- Second planned pregnancy ended in miscarriage in Apr. ’10 at 5 wks
I don’t get the point of this. You had in fact planned 2 pregnancies that ended, so obviously you at one point wanted kids. If you want kids at all and already had so many problems why would you risk this chance for a healthy baby in order to cause some commotion on the internet? The more and more failed pregnancies you have, the less chance you have of actually having a healthy one. Just by putting this website up shows you do not deserve a child, and I feel sad for the one you’re carrying now.
“For you, Tiffany, are misled and unwilling to see humor in anything, abundant in retaliation to all who don’t believe as you do.”
This is a sin…. so I guess we agree from the start.
My heart breaks for you… the fact that you are even considering an abortion based on the opinions of a bunch of random strangers. It is quite obvious by the fact that you planned this pregnancy that at some point, you wanted this child. Even if you don’t want this precious baby, there is someone who will. Don’t murder this baby just to satisfy your stupid poll. Give him or her a chance in a loving home through adoption. I know people who have had abortions and they have told me that even though they did not want the baby, they felt the abortion ripped out a part of their heart and they can never get it back. How sad for your baby to find out that you left his or her fate up to an internet poll.
I don’t understand. Clearly you have no problem with the idea of carrying a baby to term. You had a couple of planned pregnancies. Why isn’t adoption an option? I am a stay at home mom of 5 that lives right here in MN, a foster parent, 3 of my children I adopted from foster care. Adoption. Adoption. Adoption. I would gladly adopt your baby in the blink of an eye. Why isn’t adoption a choice over abortion for you?
It saddens me that you would even contemplate a forum such as this. The creation of a life is no simple daily task that should have input from anyone other than yourselves. After 2 miscarriages already, this should be a no-brainer that you would want to do everything possible to preserve this pregnancy. My wife and I have one wonderful son and have had 3 miscarriages since his birth. I do understand the hesitation for another try, as the miscarriages have tainted the whole experience and the hopeful joy of a parent during pregnancy – but to put this to a vote is a slap in the face to not only other parents, but God himself. This is between the two of you and God, and really no one else. I wish you great luck, and hope that you have a wonderful healthy baby.
When I first heard of this site and poll I didnt really beileve that 2 people could be so cold. I would first like to say, I got pregnant in 2000, and found out 3 months into my pregnancy that I was carrying triplets! (spontaneous triplets, multiples run in my family)
During one of my first appointments with my perinatologist we discussed family medical history and then my Dr. went on to talk to me about triplets and the burden that might carry both physically and financially. I sat across the table from him as he proceded to explain the process of eliminating 1 or more of my children. I sat there in shock and interrupted my Dr. by saying “absolutely not”! I was carrying identical boys (same sack) and a fraternal daughter and cannot imagine life without them! Too bad he didnt want to talk to me about the burden a Mom might carry the rest of her life if she made such a terrible choice based on money and difficulities that might come.
I’m not going to say that it has always been a cake walk, in fact there were days in the beginning when I broke down crying! I went through a divorce when they were 6 months old and also had to go back to work at that same time in order to provide for them. As a mother, my kids came first, still do. I am now re-married and have a wonderful husband that loves me and our children.
I would just like to point out that I really hope you realize what you’re doing. How will your child feel some day when he finds out about this poll??? How will you explain why you did this??? How will you feel 1 day, 5 days, 2 weeks, 1 year, 10 or even 20 years down the line if you make the choice to abort?
How do you feel when your baby is kicking you from the inside, moving around, when you feel the tiny hic-cups, see him, and hear the heart beat. Doesnt it make your heart melt? Doesnt it give you a sense of happiness? Love?
I told my husband I wish there was the option to “give up for adoption” in your poll….
im a 14 year old girl. i am pro choice, and i do believe that a woman has a right to chose. but this is completely and totally wrong. i do not support this because it is YOUR job to make the decision, not strangers on the internet. it is absolutely disgusting that you are leaving a future life up to chance. this is honestly the most idiotic and unmoral thing ive ever come across on the internet. you are attention whore just looking for some media coverage on this shameful poll. what happens when your child finds out that you left their fate up to strangers? look at the goddamn ultrasounds, there is a living thing in you. please just give it the chance to live.
I find that allowing others to decide your own personal fate quite disturbing. It is nothing like a public election where each person votes for their own interests and the winning vote decides the fate of others. Complete strangers are being asked to vote for something that is personal. I’m an individual who desires to be informed before I vote. I found too little information supporting an abortion. Any medical concerns have been cleared and it sounds like you are going to have a healthy child. One that you tried to have in the first place. I also read some of the comments. Yes, some people are ignorant, and you are using the law as your defense. I find a flaw in the way the law is written: If a pregnant woman is pregnant, and is in a car accident that is not her fault, and if the pregnancy is lost, the law says it is man slaughter because the mother wanted to keep the child, but abortion is legal because the woman does not want the child. So if the mother wants the child, it is in fact a human being, but if the mother does not want the child, it is merely cells. My personal belief is that once there is a heartbeat, it is a living creature. People go to jail for doing far less cruel things to animals.
GIVE the child up for ADOPTION. what is YOUR PROBLEM!? why would you EVER base your decision on a bunch of people you dont even know!?!?!?!?!?! This is absolutely DISGUSTING. If you do not want the child, do NOT have an abortion. There are MILLIONS of people in the world who are unable to have children and ENVY you for being able to carry a child to term. Give the child up for adoption before you end its life. I am compeltely and utterly disgusted and you should have your tubes tied and NEVER have the opportunity to give birth to a child.
You people are sick. You should be ashamed of yourselves.
i pray that you don’t abort this child. Let God be the decider of how long it should live. Even if it has health problems that doesn’t mean it is less deserving of love or life. I promise you that if you keep your child and love it with all your heart, you will never regret it. I had 2 unplanned pregnancies and I am so glad I kept my babies. Both times when I became pregnant I didn’t want to be pregnant. But now I am glad God gave me 2 blessings in disguise. God can bring you through anything and He will if you let him. Don’t give up on a life because you may be scared or worried. Give it to God and I PROMISE He will carry your load.
You people are sick fucks. I hope you rot in hell over this. Bad enough to consider it…worse to allow strangers to decide the life of someone with which they have no connection other than a website.
Wow, you are a couple of the most deranged individuals I have ever come across. May God have mercy on your souls for this.
I think that abortion should never be an option, as there are many couples who can’t have babies. If you aren’t interested in raising a child, someone else will love them unconditionally!
I think that it is silly you are leaving this decision up to chance.
Alisha and Pete, this is not a joke.
I suggest you to seek professional help to get proper insight into your desire to become parents, your degree of maturity to take responsibilities upon yourselves and the motives to make such an intimate decision public.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do NOT kill your own child, you wanted the public to make this decision for you so here you go, i hope you listen to these words closely.
Abortion should not be a CHOICE. Its a CHILD NOT A CHOICE!
You made a CHOICE to have SEX and God created life within you!~ A BEAUTIFUL AMAZING MIRACULOUS HUMAN BEING, your SON or DAUGHTER.
If you are having doubts about whether or not you can handle being a parent or having a child, then its an EASY decisiion, carry the baby, give birth to the baby and give the baby to a family who is not able to have a child and so desperately wants one, its called ADOPTION! http://www.adoptionnetwork.com
Just remember your child’s heart was beating at just 18 days. I could go on and on but why dont you just watch this youtube video of development of a baby instead: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AoisqOGQIVE
I pray you CHOOSE LIFE!!!!!
I guess the question has to be, “Do you want children?”. I believe that a mistake is never made from having a child. It is a child, a real human being. Where do your doubts about having the child lie? That you won’t be able to support your child? That you won’t be able to have the freedom and flexibility that you once had? These are all reasonable thoughts. But, think about the joy, that this child may bring. Whatever disagreements you may have, if you have a solid, great marriage and are happy, a child can only enhance it. It may not be an easy road, but who ever said life was easy? And think about how you may feel years down the road if you have an abortion. You may be able to get on with your life, but something will always be missing. You will always be left to wonder, what if? Your child could grow up to do amazing things and provide you with a completely different perspective on life. Do you want to miss out on that? I am sad that you have experienced the tragedies of miscarriages, but maybe this is God saying “I want to bless you and provide you with a happiness that you have never known. Your heart is aching, to find what is right. But, you know the right decision in your gut. Close your eyes, be silent and take a deep breath and you will know what is right for you.” There is plenty of support in your community and classes you can take and people you can talk to that would support your decision to have this child. If you choose adoption, there are plenty of wonderful, loving couples out there who would love to have a child. Please do not deny yourselves and or another couple this beautiful gift that you have been blessed with. Whatever choice you make, please consider that abortion is final and not a choice to be made without throughly thinking about the consequences. I will think about you and pray that you come to a decision that brings peace to your life. Please feel free to contact me by email anytime.
I don’t understand this at all. This doesn’t make any sense. It makes me want to cry and throw up. Please stop this. Please, please seek help.
There are so many women out there that would love to be in your shoes by being pregnant. I am one of them, I miscarried twice, so I know whats it like. But its just not happening for me! Why would you want to abort it when you already planned 2 pregnancies???? What the f***!!!!! Your choice, but think about “HOW YOU felt when you lost your first two……
If you decide to give birth to this child, WHAT IN THE WORLD ARE YOU GOING TO TELL HIM OR HER WHEN THEY FIND OUT ABOUT THIS SITE?
I hope this is but a mere stunt to draw attention to the barbarity of ending a child’s life. If it is, I say kudos! It worked.
If it isn’t, shame on you.
I struggle to understand the purpose of allowing complete strangers to vote on such on important matter in your lives. The decision to have a child is not one that should be taken lightly. My husband and I have struggled for over 2 years to start a family. After months of testing and disappointments, we discovered our options were IUI, IVF, or adoption. While we are struggling with the moral issue of continuing our journey for a child to love and raise through medical procedures, I cried when I discovered your web site. My husband and I would give anything to experience the joy of having a child. While I am not entirely against abortion (I believe that there are extreme situations where it maybe be best), I must admit that I am heart broken that such a serious decision in your lives has been put up to a vote.
I pray that you both make the decision that is best for your unborn child and wish you both the very best.
In this country, for now, you have the right to choose. You don’t have to rely on, or be powerlessly dependent on others to make this highly personal decision for you. If this is some misguided attempt at “performance art” in support of anti-choice legislation, you really just don’t understand the politics of choice. Arbitrarily allowing others to make our reproductive decisions is exactly what will happen if we loose the right to choose. So, I wouldn’t presume to “vote”, it is really none of my business. It was rather disingenuous of you not to include a third button to allow for an “other/not my choice” vote. You may have then actually allowed others to have a direct experience of their true convictions. Our country still, overwhelmingly supports choice.
How about you 2 idiots give the baby up for adoption? It’s a win/win.
I doubt these yahoos (the edgy pete and alisha) are real. If they are even close to being who they claim to be, their motives are definitely in question. I smell something fishy.
Sorry im completely against abortion(unless in rape or health reasons) and im completely against you becoming parents because you have no sense of maturity!! if you felt like you couldnt have children then USE PROTECTION i should be saying this for 16 year olds not people “grown” up if you choose to abort or keep i hope you feel the pain every women on this earth that cant have kids feel because you seem to think its down the random people you dont know to choose the fate of a innocent child!! you make me sick!
WAKE UP READERS!!!
this is a sick “pro life” hoax.
The opposite of anti abortion/prolife is not pro abortion; it is PRO CHOICE.
you have missed the point again. We will not be voting on this. No one should be voting on this. It is the parents choice what to do and noone else can make it for them because noone else has to live with that choice.
Adoption is not an option because everyone would take it in this scenario (since your fictional characters are clearly too callous to be parents). And that would cause unity not the massive arguments you want.
Nice try.
Abortion is not ideal but until women have 100% control over thier reproductive life it is needed. Who the hell are you to make a woman bear the child of her rapist, or a child bear a child?, or a woman who may die in childbirth carry on?
Morals are never black and white and cannot have a POLL because the answers are not black and white either.
Grow up.
I had my son and he was premature baby, I was only 7 months pregnant. He stayed in the hospital for almost 1 month before I could bring him home. I call him my miracle baby and I would not change that for the world. My advice to you is that a baby is a miracle and now you have the opportunity to make that miracle come true. If that miracle is ended you might never get a chance to re-live that moment. Being a mother is a blessing.
I don’t know why you would want someone other than yourselves to make this decision, other than a desire for attention.
I just wanted to say this- I had an abortion at 10 weeks, was never pregnant before, and aside from being 19 yrs old, really had no reason to have one. My family pushed me to do it because they didn’t think I should give up my future, blah blah blah. I was young and impressionable and decided to do it. It was the worst experience of my life! I nearly hemorraged to death, and the guilt I felt for getting rid of the baby was awful. I suffered from PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) due to it. I got pregnant again only a few months later, and kept the baby. He is 10 yrs old and the light of my life. I would NEVER again have an abortion. I feel like you need to make this decision on your own, not allow the public to have a say in it. Because once you make the choice, it’s permanent. The public won’t be there to make you feel better if you decide to have an abortion, and the public won’t be there to help you raise the child should you decide to keep it. Im not going to tell you what I think you should do, because it is an intensely personal decision. Having an abortion is far different than having a miscarriage, so don’t think that just because you have handled miscarriages that you know how it will be to have an abortion. Mentally and emotionally speaking that is. I do however think you should consider the possibility of adoption…there are so many wonderful people in the world who simply cannot have their own babies and would happily take yours. I simply ask that you stop this voting process and allow yourselves to make the choice on your own. You don’t want to have any more regrets later on. Good Luck
A true Libertarian would NEVER leave a decision up to a popular vote. If this isn’t bogus- ie. you really making this choice based on a popular vote or you both ARE in fact attention whores, then i don’t know what to say. I actually do subscribe to the Libertarian philosophy and I know this smacks it right in the face. I can’t pass judgment on what you do in the end. I am pro choice because freedom is invaluable. This is a moral decision- your moral decision. I seriously hope this is a prank…
If in fact you have this child, I cant help but thinking what you are going to tell him or her when he hears that you left his life up to the internet? What is that going to make your child think? You two disgust me!! There are people in this world who would love a child and cant have one, and you two are just throwing that around. Fuck you! I hope you both get what is coming to you!!!
I feel disgusted first of all that you are considering whether or not keeping the baby, second, the things that horrifies me the most is that you, as parents, need to hear the opinion of unknown people regarding the destiny of this little innocent human being that is at the complete mercy of two people like you.
This is obviously fake. I’ve read a lot of pro-life materials, and the language used on this site is very obviously coming from someone with pro-life training. “The Pill” in quotes? Come on.
Have the child. Give him up for adoption. Then go get sterilized.
Kill this thing, you don’t get many chance to kill and get away with it. It could thrilling to kill a living thing.
You two are sick. I’m pro-choice but this is a ridiculous game, and you should be ashamed of yourselves. Thousands of couples and/or women struggle with this question. Its deeply personal! If you do keep this child I hope for your sick sakes that they NEVER find out about this silly game you are playing.
Its too bad your own mother’s can’t go back and abort you both. Shame on you for being such sick, idiotic individuals.
This site is fake. There is concrete evidence linking this site to a climate change denier site ‘The Church of Global Warming‘.
Although both sites have been registered anonymously, examination of each site’s source code shows that both sites have their web traffic monitored from the same Google Analytics account – UA7524334.
I agree with Tanya because you are letting people decide what you and your husband to do.
What ever you decide to do it is your choice just remember you Do onto others the way you want to be treated and sometimes in life We Reap What we Sow. If you can’t have children and you miss carry then it is about time to get fix and adopt instead of going through this trauma